First, don’t worry about your ability to love them equally
Your first pregnancy is always a slightly different experience than the next ones. The future mother feels each new step in the process of discovery intensely, paying close attention to baby’s development and the changes in her body and sticking firmly to the schedule of childbirth classes.
Second pregnancies are usually taken a little less seriously. Of course, each pregnancy is different, but you already know generally what will happen. That isn’t to say that you’re not interested, just that you feel calmer about everything. However, some women may see this as cause for concern about their ability to love their second child as much as the first. This is completely normal. But when it comes to helping your family settle peacefully into its new configuration, it’s best to eliminate these doubts from the outset: every mother loves all her children equally, but differently! The faster the new family organization can take shape, the sooner you can forget the fear of favoring one child over the other. And the sooner the older child will feel comfortable in the new role.