Pregnancy : What dad needs to know
Providing day-to-day support for the mom-to-be
Pregnancy is a major upheaval for your partner – both physically and emotionally. Throughout the nine-month period that is just beginning, she will need your support.
- Starting in the first few weeks, she may suffer from – sometimes intense – nausea. To help her feel better, take on as much responsibility as you can for preparing meals. That way, she won't have to handlecertain foods that might make her feel sick. Also remember to bring her something to eat before she gets up in the morning. That can sometimes help to relieve nausea.
- Overall, pregnancy is extremely tiring for mom-to-be. Take over as many physical tasks as possible and encourage her to rest. If you ever think that she is not looking after herself enough during her pregnancy, talk about it with her and give her the help and support she needs so that she can slow things down a little.
- You may also be surprised by her mood swings: these are mainly due to hormonal changes, which can sometimes make her extremely sensitive. Be patient and listen to her. Reassure her if she seems anxious.
- As the second trimester gets under way, the weight of her stomach will start to make your partner feel tired. Certain physical activity may seem strenuous – even just remaining standing. Do everything you can to support her: run errands, carry heavy things, do the housework and the cooking.
- If she gets backache or if her legs feel heavy (something which often affects women in the final stages of pregnancy), give her a massage to help her relax. These are also great bonding moments.
- Couples' sex lives are often affected during pregnancy, and your partner's libido may be less intense than usual. Sometimes, pregnancy can also affect physiological responses. A lack of vaginal lubrication, pain during penetration and uterine contractions after orgasm can all lessen her desire. Be patient and understanding.