Childbirth: What dad needs to know
Being there… or not being there
- Nowadays, most fathers are there when their children are born. However, that does not mean that you have to be there: if you don't feel able to be there, talk about it with your partner and be open with her about what your fears are. Then together, you will be able to come to the right decision for both of you.
- And sometimes, moms don't want to give birth with the father present. They are afraid of upsetting them, or they think they will be able to focus better without them. If your partner falls into this category, respect her request, while at the same time let her know what you would prefer: if you really want to be there, she may feel touched or reassured. And perhaps she will end up letting you go with her.
- For deliveries by C-section, cetain maternity hospitals may ask the father to leave the delivery room. But stay close by: as soon as your baby is born, that's when you'll be able to warm him up and give him reassurance as he experiences his first contact with the outside world. You may want to take your shirt off so that he can feel the warmth of your skin – there's nothing quite like it.