Becoming a dad
Switching from being a couple to being a family
Your baby's arrival is something wonderful. But it can also be a major source of upheaval. The balanced relationship that you have built with your partner can be affected: you are going from being a couple to being a family, and everyone has to redefine their place and the role that they play. Allow yourself a little time to find a new balance with your baby - as part of a couple and with your extended family!
- A solid relationship with your wife is vital for managing your new responsibilities as parents with complete peace of mind: you have created this child together and you have to look after it together! Over the first few months, your partner will need your help to recover from all the fatigue of pregnancy and giving birth. Do as many of the day-to-day tasks yourself as possible and seize each and every opportunity to spend time with your child.
- Becoming a dad also means accepting that your partner will temporarily be less available for you. It is completely normal for her to have an extremely close relationship with your baby for the first few months. This will change gradually over time. Establish a role for yourself by playing a part in taking care of your child and building a relationship with him.
- Over time, a more three-way relationship between you, your partner and your baby will take shape. The relationship between you and your wife is just as important for your baby as the relationships between your baby and its mom and between your baby and you: for a child, its father is the man that its mom desires. And so the role that you play in your wife's life further emphasizes your role as a father.
- If this is not your first baby, it will probably be easier for you to adapt to all these changes as a result of your experience as parents. But pay attention to the way in which your older children react to this new baby: if you're interested, you can have a look at our advice sheet.